4 Things that are Stressing You Out; and How to Fix them.Payton Foeller
“I hate that I always look like such a mess. I’m so unorganized. I look fat. I feel so groggy all the time. My friends are always annoyed because I’m late… a lot… My husband says I never spend time with him… and I never spend .. ‘timeee’ with him. I wish I had time for things I want to do, I have dreams too ya’ know.”
Stop it. Stop complaining and stressing out about things that YOU CAN change. These are alllll self-inflicted and mostly due to poor time management and laziness. (I said mostly, don’t freak out, of course, there are exceptions, but I doubt they apply to you.)
1. I’m such a mess, I look fat, I feel so groggy… If you say these things on a regular basis read on, if not, continue to the next point. Get up. Get off your butt and put some tennis shoes on and go outside or to the gym or to your living room and do some push ups. Run. Move your legs, exercise (*also see ‘timeee’ with your husband; that can burn some calories). Eat healthily; poor exercise and eating habits lead to weight gain and groggy feelings. If you don’t eat well you won’t feel well. I can promise you that; considering that fast food that slowed down my entire afternoon yesterday. I ate poorly and I suffered. Sometimes I really think its worth the risk (*ahem, chick-fil-a, yes please). But making these bad things into ‘habits’ is Not worth it. Make some time, buy healthy food and keep it on your counter. Throw away the Oreos, we all know you can’t resist if you see them. Buy some cute new yoga pants and hit the gym. Get friends involved to keep you motivated. Do these things and quit complaining. Stop making your husband uncomfortable with the, ‘does this make me look fat?’ question he dreads because he never uses the right tone or facial expression when he says ‘no..’
2. My husband says I never make time for him or make ‘timeee’ for him. If you hear this often (even under a muffled cough) read on. If not see number 3.
If you have an awesome marriage and an awesome sex life but you still hear this, then likely your issue is time management (see number 3). But if you hear this after binge watching Netflix and spending a Saturday on the couch then making the time probably isn’t the issue. If you don’t make time for date night, even though you have plenty of time, ask yourself why that is. Have frank conversations with your spouse and with your accountability group (a group of 3 or four ladies that get together to encourage and support each other in their faith walks). If your husband requests more ‘timeeee’ with you (if you don’t get why the word is in quotes and has extra eee’s you’re too young for this to matter) then I’d suggest getting on iTunes and subscribing to a podcast called ‘Sexy Marriage Radio.’ Go back and listen to the archives, get caught up because they cover a lot. As with any person declaring to share wisdom in Christ’s name take their advice with a grain of salt, understand that scripture should be the ultimate authority.
3. My friends make faces when I’m late … which is a lot. My husband says I don’t spend time with him. I have dreams and personal goals but you’d never know it because I don’t have time for them.
If you say these things .. ever.. read on, and make time management a priority. Time management, in my opinion, is the behind all the biggest stresses women experience and are linked to both number 1 and 2.
Some tips for time management:
b.) If you do have this bad habit, don’t aim to be on time, aim to be 15 minutes early, and really do it (most of the time you’ll show up right on time).
But I have kids! You expect me to be on time?!
Yes. I really do. All the more important to show them examples of good time management.
My friends don’t care…
Yes, they do, don’t be an idiot.
I don’t think there’s anything I can cut from my life…
Ha! You’re funnyyy. Yes, there is. So do it.