Why You Need to be Less BusyPayton Foeller
I deleted the lengthy text and just sent a simple, ‘thank you so much.’ I was grateful for the break I got and I was grateful that I have tied myself to fellow believers who understand the value of taking a break. My busyness had caught up with me and I needed to step back; even if just for an evening, to relax and enjoy some time in fellowship.
I didn’t take a break to do dishes or chores or nurse a sick baby, I took a break to relax. Here lies the key to not going insane and killing everyone who leaves the toilet seat up or forgets your birthday or whatever it is that really gets you fuming. Knowing when you need a real break can save lives people. I really believe that. I had a great evening with friends and family and was able to take on the coming week refreshed and revived by Godly fellowship!
Anyway, we’re talking about busyness right? I can’t take a break from busyness! People need me! Wellll maybe. Probably not. It’s lovely to be needed and there of course are things only you can do! Like kiss boo boos and tuck littles in just right. But most of the stuff you do can be done by anyone. Those three book clubs and that Sunday school training can probably be attended by someone else. Your kids can help with chores more than they let on I’m sure! If not maybe it’s time to teach them. You’re not as awesome as you think and someday the world will go on without you; and that’s okay. You can learn the power of the word NO. There’s a million self help books with this title I’m positive. Just say it, No. No, no, no. Ok good, now we know you can say the word. You just need to learn to use it.
Please don’t get me wrong here, I’m not saying chores and serving and home and church and whatever don’t need to be tended to. They do! But for a season, is it possible that you’re tending to too much? Is it possible that for a season you could commit to less and your life would be better for it?
The scenario that comes to mind the most is our local churches. The 80/20 rule you always hear about: 20% of the people are doing 80% of the work in our local churches. This is crazy! However, it’s not your responsibility to pick up where others are lazy. Did it ever occur to you that YOU are helping them be lazy church members? You’re enabling them to do nothing by leaving nothing for them to do! So stop it! Find out what you’re good at, find your spiritual gift and use it to the best of your abilities. But stop filling positions (anywhere, not just church) just to be busy or just because they need filled. Honorable work is good and healthy but busyness for the sake of being busy is evil and terrible for you and those around you.
Start saying no. Take a break from your busyness this season and in a few weeks, months, years, look back and count up the number of people who benefited from you slowing down. I promise it’ll be a ton.
The answer is both. Told you! The answer is both because no one activity or role is responsible for your busy busy life. It’s you. You’re responsible. It’s your fault. (ouch!) How you manage your time, who you say yes to, and who you say no to makes up your schedule and your busyness. And no one can tell you how to make those decisions but they have to be made. Stop saying you don’t have time because you do have time. Everyone has the same amount of time. You just would rather use it for something else. And that’s OKAY! You’re allowed to prioritize; in fact it’s encouraged!
Summary? Stop being busy just to be busy.
Start saying no.
Start saying yes to only the right things.
Stop feeling guilty for making your schedule and your sanity a priority! TAKE A BREAK! And while you take a break consider if this needs to be a permanent change and how you’re life would be impacted by saying no to busyness.
Stop making excuses and start making changes.