How to Stop Making Excuses by Just Doing It.Payton Foeller
I needed to take a breath.
A lot of things had piled up and sometimes you just need a break ya know? The dishes needed done, the baby needed snuggled, and several other things that really weren’t super important had created a mountain of a to-do list. Wouldn’t you know it though… I had told someone else somewhere else that I would do something for them. . .
I typed out a long message that explained what was going on and why I couldn’t make it. Then I realized that I’ve done this several times. Anytime I make myself or our family a priority I feel the need to explain myself. I feel wrong for taking a break from being busy! Why is that?
Why have we been conditioned to feel bad when we take care of ourselves?
Wives, can you be helpful and loving to your husband if you constantly run yourself ragged? You can try but I doubt you’ll do very well.
Can you pour into the lives of your children when you’ve volunteered yourself for who knows how many hours of who knows what? Nope.
Why is it that we feel we need to fill every need that arises in the lives of those around us? ‘Well if I don’t do it then no one will!’ Uhhh… sorry but you probably think a litttttle too highly of yourself. Maybe.. And even if that’s true the world won’t stop spinning if you don’t do that thing that surely MUST get done.
…Maybe I should have named this blog, ‘I’m not the center of the universe‘ because that’s the theme that keeps popping up…
If you stop volunteering for everything and it’s brother you may be surprised to see who steps up. And if no one does then maybe that thing just wasn’t needed as badly as you thought.
“Anytime I make myself or our family a priority I feel the need to explain myself.”
Then I thought about it… Do they really care? Probably not. Maybe, but I doubt it. I erased the text and simply replied, ‘Thanks so much.’
I’m slowly learning that if I’m living my life right, people will understand that when I cancel on them it’s with good reason. If I’m consistent in my actions by following through when I say I will (most of the time) then when I don’t they’ll understand no questions asked… or excuses needed.
Every once in a while we need to step back and reevaluate what our priorities are. God, Husband, Kids, Church, Work, Friends, Self, should all be on the list of course. But are we making extra sure that we’re putting the right amount of time into each of those things? Are there other things in your life that you want to put on the list? Probably. That’s fine. But realize that when you try to do everything you won’t do anything well.
If everyone at church knows you’re who to ask when things need done but your children and family are being neglected; that’s an issue. Even if what you’re doing is good, it can be a bad thing.
Live your life to where there’s no need for excuses.
If you’re late people know it was important.
If you’re absent people call to check on you because it’s such a rare occurrence.
‘Well I can’t do it all!’ No you can’t, so quite trying. Whatever you do, do it well. Something we have hanging on our wall, a wonderful Abe Lincoln quote, “Whatever you are, be a good one.” (Yes, we have bright yellow walls, yes it’s crazy, and yes I LOVE them.)
What excuses have you been making?
What can you do to live to where you have no need for excuses?
What ever you are, are you being the best or are you to busy trying to be a thousand different things for a million different people?
Today I’m stepping back and evaluating my excuses.
What are you gonna do?