3 Ridiculous Reasons to Stop Watching the BachelorettePayton Foeller
Christian Women, why do we sit in front of the TV to watch this train wreck? What about this man (and I use that word loosely here) is so endearing? What is it about a guy who says, ‘sure, let’s find me a wife by kissing on (and God knows what else) and dating several women back to back on national tv!’ ??? What about this vast character flaw that makes women weak in the knees and causes so many Christians to tune in each week? Please, really, comment and tell me because I just don’t see how this is something that we’re okay with… Here’s what I don’t get:
1. What are we saying about ourselves as women when we watch?
I’m not good enough for a man to invest time in me alone. I don’t believe I deserve respect and really I don’t respect myself. Dear Bachelorettes, don’t you know that you are a treasure? Can’t you see that you deserve a man who wants you alone, has eyes only for you? I understand singleness is a rough season. And no I can’t really talk, I was married at 19. But I know that it is hard! Everything is hard, every day every second is a challenge because we live in a fallen world. Please wait. Just wait. Don’t settle for this man. (He’s out there, the good man, I promise. And if he’s not, God has amazing plans for you as a single lady).
We are saying that we either don’t deserve this man who will love us and treat us right. Or that we are too needy, lonely, and impatient to wait for him. Trust God. Single Ladies: Be a woman worthy of respect and then wait for a man who respects you. Clear out those DVR’s and stop dreaming of this Bachelor.
2. What are we saying about Men when we watch?
Dear men, you don’t need to be respectful, you don’t need to have eyes only for me. Oh, and feel free to make out with other women while we date and try to find out whether or not we’ll spend the rest of our lives together. You just need to be good looking and be able to pay for my stuff.
Christian women, was this okay with you when you were dating your husbands? Or would it be if you began dating a man you hope to marry (which should be why you’re dating by the way)? Bachelorettes, can we please hold men to a higher standard? Can we expect more from Men? Because real Men want to meet your expectations. But when all you expect is money and nice hair, that is what you will find yourself married to and I can promise you at least one of those won’t last!
[Bonus: Married ladies!? How does this make your husband feel? He may not say it, he may not know it on a superconscious level, but watching this *ahem* garbage is a punch to his gut. The two draws of the show, a hunky man and a lot of drama. The first disrespects your husband and the second disrespects you.]
3. And momma’s, what message are you sending to your children?
Dear daughter, I hope someday you will grow up and find a man who kisses other women after he says he loves you. I hope you feel so incomplete that you try to fill that void with drama and men that don’t respect you. Dear daughter, the only way you can get a man is by allowing him to treat you poorly. Have so little respect for yourself that you end up like these fine women.
Dear son, grow up to be decent looking and have a nice savings account and women will line up to marry you; literally line up, like they’re items on a shelf at the store. How are the feminists not all over this show? Dear son, no matter how much you actually respect them, or yourself for that matter they’ll want you because you’re loaded. I hope you find a woman that doesn’t know her own worth and allows herself to settle for you.
Women who don’t know my Lord and Savior, there is a man who will treat you much better and wants so much more for you than this Bachelor. Husbands! Cancel your cable, purge your DVR’s, look at your wives and say, “Sweet woman of mine, I respect you and love you far too much to let you think that this Bachelors behavior is acceptable. You deserve more than that, and I’m sorry if I don’t always show it to you.” Burn the TV if you must; just get it out of your homes. Oh.. Well, “it’s just the way dating is now-a-days..” To this I say HOGWASH. I’m so sorry if this was your experience, and I’m so sorry if you married for the money and the hair. But ‘the Bachelor’ method of dating (allowing your boyfriend to casually suck face with other ladies whilst dating you) is not the only way. It’s not a good way or even acceptable way. Demand more from your dating life, be respectable and demand the respect you deserve.